Father had long term Vision
From the time my dad started the family in
Sembawang, he had known that it was not going to be easy. The odds were clearly stacked against him. His salary was meager. His age
wasn’t young. He was already in his 50s. He did not have the technical skill or English language competency to get a better paying job. In spite of all these handicaps, he did raise a very happy family.
English Education
Clearly my father had broad and clear vision. The only way for a better future in Singapore was
English education. He pushed hard and ensured me and my younger brother had English education. My elder brother missed the opportunity as there were simply inadequate English schools near us. My elder brother lack of
English education, was mitigated and compensated by technical education after his secondary school. This was the testament to my father firm belief in education. With long term planning and some saving, he was even able to support my younger brother for overseas university.
"Kampong" boy that made good.
As for me, deep inside my heart, I understood the financial constrain and predicament my father confronted. He had four children to educate and raise and I the burden on his shoulder was real heavy. I had already made up my mind to work and forgo university.
I am confident that I have the ability to excel and build my own career and life independently. After finishing
pre-university in Raffles Institution and completing my national service in the navy, I pursue my passion for flying. I made the requirement to join SIA and has never regretted the path I took. Education after school was self learning, something I had pursue relentlessly to enhance my knowledge in every fields. I have never allow my lack of material wealth to stand in the way of acquiring intellectual wealth. I soaked up knowledge and constantly update whatever skills were required for the day. I am proud to say I was a "kampong boy" that made good my dream.
Simple and frugal life
Living condition in my childhood days was simple and frugal. We were poor by today standard definition of poverty. Because we had hardworking parents, we always had more than enough to eat. We had opportunity for education and plenty of time to play as
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children. In school, I never ever hear any fellow classmates complain of lack of toys or time to play, or too much schoolwork. Even without pocket money, we were contented with tap water and snacks brought from home. Our parents were mostly very strict but parental love was abundant. We used hand me down clothes
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and shoes, but we don’t complain. We had simple rickety bicycles to move around. There was no television. But we still managed to watch some popular black and white programs from Huang Long Community Centre or my neighbour’s house.
Electricity came when I was in primary 2 or 3. Drinking water was always from the well. Food was mainly from family farm except for fish and pork. Photographs of my father with younger brother
Heng Yow (left) and elder brother Bobby (right).
All family members must contribute
Time was divided amongst school, play and helping out on house works.
Helping out in house works or in family business were norms for those living in the rural areas. My elder brother helped my mum to deliver eggs to buyers. During the fruit season, he hawked
rambutans outside a cinema call ‘Sultan’. He also sells
rambutans to school teachers.
Mum tapped rubber for $5 per day
My mum took a half day morning job tapping rubber trees for latex and was paid $5 per day. She started before sunrise and by 9a.m the latex was ready for collection. My sister or I will go to the plantation to help her collect the latex so she could complete her job earlier. That way she can be back early to cook lunch for us. None of my friends knew I worked in the rubber plantation as I was rather embarrassed to share my experience. It was really dirty work and always stung by swarm of mosquitoes.
Sharing the family loads
At home, my sister and I also helped to tend to the chicken and to collect eggs. During the weekend, I also help collect chicken grass to supplement the chicken feeds. All my brothers and sister also help to collect and cut fire woods for cooking. Those duties were normally reserved during school holidays. During
rambutan season, we also plucked them and then bundled them to be sold off. We always invited our relatives to pluck as much as they wanted.
House works like washing crockery, washing and collecting laundry was done by my mum or sister. My brothers help in fetching water from the well. So that’s how we grew up working together as a family. We shared the work loads whereas today children share the goodies. We don’t questions about fairness of house duties. We just did it. It’s about responsibility, obligation and being useful. When completed, it’s play time. In spite of the doing what we did, I don’t recall we ever complain. Sometimes it’s even enjoyable. There was no problem of child obesity. All of us were skinny. My childhood was truly very meaningful, memorable and happy.
My siblings sitting on Uncle Tan's scooter. He was my father distant cousin.
To be continued next post.
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